How to Eliminate Self Doubt Forever
One of my life missions is to try to get people to talk and share their story about them being diagnosed “differently” if you will. I wish I could interview everybody who was born differently and or who is a parent of a child who was born differently and have them share their story. Unfortunately though in the real world, that’s not how it is all the time.I have always been open to tell my story because that’s how my parents raised me, not to be afraid, and you might help somebody along the way. The older I get the more my conscience starts talking to me and tells me to pull back on the horse reins a little bit because you also don’t want to set people running at the same time. I know it can be a risk sometimes to be open to somebody else, but if the gamble works then you could not only help somebody out and make them feel more comfortable with their problems, you may also even make a friend in the process. Being diagnosed differently is something that you will never be able to overcome, however it is something that you will learn how to cope with and get better at coping with it. So I figured I would write some tips.
1.) Be social. Going out to parties is a great way to practice being open with others. People do it all the time when it comes to everyday things. For instance, you can be talking about how you like traveling or going mountain biking, then the other person will tart to get all excited because they like to do the same activities.
2.) Don’t be afraid to write about it. Writing about your differences can take just as much courage as talking about it because your message and story will reach out to more people. But you have to think positively about it, you have to think that you will also be helping more people than just one person.
3.) Don’t be afraid of yourself and success. Let your mind be open and free. This tip can kind of go under tip number two. However, it’s different because the minute you get a taste of success, the minute you build up your self confidence, the more you will want to tell your story and help other people.
4.) Interview other people about their problems if they are willing to be interviewed. Interviewing people is a little different than just talking to them because you are going to talk to them with a much deeper sense of trust, and they are taking a risk for their first time just as you did your first time. This does not mean that you can’t talk about your problems while you are interviewing them.
5.) If you have children and you think they are at the right age, talk to your children about it as I have done with my nine year old step daughter. I told her a few years ago when she was around 6 and she was more than comprehensible about it. If you have a family, tell your family about it and don’t hold back, because then they will see that you are opening up to them and that they will be able to trust you more; therefore you will be a happier family.